This is a subject another author brought up recently and as it turned out, not only was it NOT just her, it appeared to be something ALOT of authors have experienced.
The “it” I’m referring to is the lack of support you sometimes experience from the people who swore to have your back throughout your process as an author…your family and friends. I personally find it beautiful and odd, that we can have family and friends so supportive and gung-ho, giving you the “go get ’em champ” speeches when you’re pounding the keyboard, ONLY to hear nothing but crickets once you finally hit “Publish” and “leave it all on the dance-floor” so to speak. The beautiful and flip side to all of this are the strangers, who understand what a major feat writing a book is, who don’t know you from a hole in the wall, yet give you daily support, encouragement and YES, even buying your book. What the hell happened to everyone else?
“Make sure you let me know when it’s available”- Various Friends and Family
Not the billions who obviously don’t know you, but the ones you were so eager to share your baby with, to see them sharing your posts, asking you about your book, or raving great reviews on Goodreads and Amazon? Maybe that too is a fantasy worthy of a novel, I’m just perplexed by it. I personally have a mother and family that’s been cheering me on since day one, but can admit there are others who disappeared once I published and that hurt. What turned that hurt into hooray have been people who I have never met, who inspire me everyday to keep moving, keep pushing and to better myself. So if you find yourself asking, “is it just me?” know that, that answer is “No”, and you are most certainly not alone. Don’t dwell on who isn’t giving support, your success or worth as an author, does not depend on their opinion of you. Reach out and meet like-minded individuals who understand your struggle and you just might find you’re surrounded by so many extended friends and family, you won’t know what to do with them!
Author of “Crashing Into Me (Book One 1)“